Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Coach, I think I understand her. I know she doesn't want me to make decisions for her. During our talk on Tuesday she told me that she felt I was controlling last year when I made all of her doctors appointments for her for her diabetes. I said that I had no idea she felt that way and I was sorry. I told her I did it to help her out since she was at work all day. Told her I was just trying to be helpful. Wow, I didn't think it was that big of a deal. Seems like nothing I say or do matters to her anymore. She got emotional and said she can't win. I feel the same way. I try to agree with her. It just seems to reinforce her thinking though.

I haven't read Learned Optimism yet. I just checked my library and they have a copy that I will check out today. I did look up some of the basics about the book on the internet. I also read about his book, Learned Helplessness. Basically it describes how people become depressed when they feel they have no control over the outcome of a situation. Describes me to a "T".