Why is he coming to the house to do laundry? Does he live there or not? If not, he can take his clothes to a laundromat. This business of coming and going as he pleases is great for him, how is it working for you? Have you told him to leave the house?
Make no mistake, he is cake eating and you are allowing it. He comes around every few days to make sure you're still waiting for him as a back-up and yep, you're there. He told you about his mom because he still wants to use you for emotional support.
I will say it again--if you're letting him go then let him go. His problems are his to figure out. He didn't ask you a question about financial/practical matters so there's no reason to respond.
You are stuck in limbo because that's where you choose to be.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
