GAG, Sorry for the language, yes there has been some very good discussion on this as of late. I started a discussion thread on the LBS cycling, maybe we can kick it around some more there.
I wanted to add something that I did not post earlier that I noticed about your XH and my W. It is that he is protective of you, I get a similar feeling from my W, maybe not so much of "protective" from her but more of trying to be "supportive".
I know this is mind reading, so I will take the 2X4's as appropriate.....but this is one the few actions or words coming from our MLCer's that is not driven by guilt, IMO.
I feel that your XH protectiveness and my W's supportiveness comes from somewhere else.....could be echoes of their love for us or that "connection" that never seems to die.
Just more of a noteworthy observation as we continue to watch the MLCer scamper around.
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.