I didn't and don't plan on doing anything as far as contacting H.
Thanks for the advice. I'm not going to contact him, you are right. It is up to him to contact her and for me not to get in the middle.
I did tell her he loves her very much, and is just sick right now and she said "How long is he going to be like this? It's almost 2yrs. Mom" I just said didn't know how long but that I know he loves her with his whole heart.
My S from my first M is also upset and has been for a long time. H raised him since he was 4 and the only contact was a card from H for S's birthday last Oct. and I had to ask H if he was going to acknowledge S or not. I didn't want to see my S hurt again. His father has nothing to do with him and H has raised him and acts now like he doesn't exist. Both of my children have the same birthday so there is NO way for H to forget or anything.
It seems with their birthdays coming up again, I'm more nervous thinking he won't acknowledge my S. H's family claimed they loved my S and so on but after we were married things changed and they treated him like an outsider and that's when H went and told them off. But now that he has made up with his mother he is acting just like them. But God bless my S. He said "Mom, H is like a little boy in a man's body. I think he will get better and come back home."
