WAW Using God III

[pigskin]

"Don't know, don't care."

I think you do or else why go through the effort of giving her a memento of you. It's okay. You still care for her. I get it. Have your kids ever talked about the OM?

I really don't concern myself with her seeing the OM. We're not in the process of reconciling, so it doesn't matter. If we agreed to attempt reconciliation, that would be a different matter.

The memento was nothing - just a small figurine I keep on my desk - it took no effort on my part. I only gave it to her because I sense a crack in her resolve, and I'm just giving her a nudge to crack further. If it has no effect, so be it. In a way I'm having fun with it. Using a little finesse. Maybe even just to screw with the OM by making her think about what she is losing.

So yes, I still care for her; she is the mother of my children. And the preferred outcome of all this is an about face by her and a revitalized marriage. But that does not seem like the likely outcome, so I'm playing both sides.

The kids mention the OM all the time. THAT really bothers me, but there is nothing I can do about it. My W and the OM have worked hard to try and create a friendship between his kids and mine. They are not what I would call close - none of my kids mention his kids as being among their best friends - but they are friendly.