Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Well, I’ve decided to move back here from the infidelity forum. W is still on the dating website but I don’t even care anymore. We’re officially done. I gave an update on my thread in the infidelity forum yesterday on what’s happened over the past couple of weeks. She was acting so much better lately but I guess that was all fake.

We talked last night so I could give her a house update. I mentioned that I received a letter from her lawyer yesterday and said we need to talk about it at some point. In the letter her L asked if I wanted to meet with her and W to discuss a S agreement. W asked what I wanted to talk about. I told her that her timing was terrible since we are dealing with difficult issues with the house right now. I asked her if this letter was in response to our conversation a couple of weeks ago that didn’t end well. She said that she’s been telling me for 10 months that she was going to file for D this October. That’s sort of BS because she told me earlier this week she had contacted her L two weeks ago after our last conversation did not end well.

I asked her if she even considered going to the counseling we discussed earlier this week and she claims she did but didn’t see any point since we’re in two different places. That’s her favorite tagline now…we’re in two different places. She said that she gave me a chance three years ago to go to counseling and I didn’t do it…I didn’t take that opportunity and now she’s done. She’s being so vindictive and trying to punish me. I told her that last year she wanted me to let go of the past or else I could never move on from the difficult last 3 years. I told her last night that I have let go of the past but she hasn’t and she’ll never want to consider trying with the M as long as she holds on to the past and her anger. I told her that she wants me to play nice with her and her L but she has done nothing to show me any consideration from her. I told her that if she would have given me the slightest courtesy and talked to me about things that I would have respected her and been more open to what she wants. I said that I cannot respect her now with the way she’s handled things.

Things turned ugly and I said that I am done with her and that I’ll let my L handle things from this point on. Oh well. I worked my ass off for her the past 10 months. It meant nothing to her. She’s so damn stubborn that she won’t even see any other view except her own. I tried, I really did. The DB stuff just didn’t work for me. I could not sit by any longer and let her walk all over me. I needed to say to her tonight how I felt about the way she has handled things. Well she didn’t like that because it didn’t jive with her viewpoint. It’s unbelievable to me to hear the things she says. She is so self-absorbed, everything is about her. I try to tell her to look at things from my perspective and she won’t. Anyway the conversation did not end well at all. Don’t think we’ll be talking to each other again anytime soon, if ever.

So I guess that’s it. Next stop is the big D. What a waste.