I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[awest1217]

It is definitely a different world for a single parent. Many times I get the same thing from my friends about getting a baby sitter, but being that I worked at a daycare through college and not mostly work with the low level kids whose parents did or do that to them, I don't want that for S. I want to spend quality time with S whenever I can. The only nice part for me is that now that H takes S every other weekend (didn't do that the first 16 months we were separated) I get a few hours to myself. Most of the time it is spent cleaning or grocery shopping so I don't ahve to do those chores with S and instead spend time with him, but sometimes I do get some time to myself which is nice.

Take what time you get for you. I know last year I was a very ineffective teacher because I was all about S and my sitch. Now I can tell that I am more effective and partly because I take some time (even if it is a 15 minute bath) for me to re-energize.

Have a good weekend and if need be, figure out what has to be done, and whatever is not immediate...don't do it.