I know money is tight, but please be careful if you go the mediator route. I'm a big believer in using a GOOD mediator, but ONLY if:
- the divorce is uncontested, incl. custody
- one of the spouses isn't wayward
Your husband, whether he's more in "affair" mode or just general "walkaway husband" mode, is clearly wayward and rather foggy and entitled. That can be a not-very-healthy mix when trying to forge a legal agreement.
There's a reason they put that little "v" between the names of the parties in a divorce, Oxy -- by design, it's an adversarial system. At a MINIMUM, please consider hiring your own attorney (even if it's for an hourly or a small "flat fee" arrangement, rather than putting someone on retainer) to review any eventual mediation document, before you sign it. Even our mediator recommended to me and my wife that we do that (we eventually reconciled).
