Another story of a WH and an LBS

[Babydoll]

Hey Gatsby, just catching up now... Seems like you are on a twirly emotional rollercoaster! Hold on Tight!

Strangely enough the WH's do see themselves as victims... as i we did something to push them away (really... what a poor excuse... so us LBS taking vows and deciding to start a familyy with them doesnt show them we really want to be with them forever?)

Love the laser hair removal idea...

[newmama]

I get what happened. you stopped paying attention to him. He wants your attention back! Hmmm....might want to keep playing that card if you get results...

[gatsby11]

hey gals! that's the thing-- i don't know what results i want! but right now i am much happier when i'm focusing on myself and not getting beat down by his accusations. so.... i think i'm going to keep doing that.

[Piano]

I think that's the right attitude G. He's hard to measure. You could go nuts trying to figure him out. See what happens after a few weeks of concentrating on you.

[Babydoll]

Gatsby, I swear I felt exactly as you describe a few months ago. H shows interest, yet says there is no hope... And as NM says focus on you and let him come to you. I still find myself doing that. I only worry (or try) about me and the baby. Whatever H does is a bonus! I agree with Piano too!

Try floating! Just take one day at a time, don't think of him or his action or try to decipher his thoughts and actions. Truth is, he is still trying to make sens of it all in his own head! Keep busy and keep H at an arm's legnth.

Hope this makes sense. I'm falling asleep as I type!

[gatsby11]

Thanks, guys!

I felt so liberated on Thursday, focusing on me and mentally ignoring WH.

Then he emailed me this morning. I didn't go off the tracks too much, but a little. Hope has arisen.

He's emailing me back tomorrow morning, he said.

Still just trying to focus on me. Did I tell y'all my priorities? I came up with them on Thursday.

1. Little girl
2. Myself (specifically sleep and exercise)
3. Work
4. Friends and family (hanging out, calling on the phone)
5. Cleaning my place

It is really hard to do this when in such frequent contact with WH. But this is my life, and it's what must be.

[newmama]

Umm, ideally your friends and family should come before work! But I know the reality right now.

I love how you put cleaning last! Aren't you a neat and tidy kind of person normally? Good job letting it go!

What did you mean about going off of the tracks?

[gatsby11]

Hey, just a sec!

The tracks of focusing on myself and not on him.

I do normally like to clean. Sometimes I put it before other things, but not now!

Yeah, if a friend or family member had a crisis, I'd leave work, but I just mean talking on the phone and hanging out.

Thanks for dropping by, NM!

[Babydoll]

Hey Gatsby... how are you?

[gatsby11]

hey,

divorcing. getting out and meeting folks. working, taking care of baby, chatting with folks on facebook.

going to check your thread...