Abusive spouse accuses "WAW" as "the" problem

[freespirit]

thanks Bridge; I am sorry to hear that you also have had an abusive spouse; mine is narcissistic/thinks he is perfect and never errors...

He has emailed several more times; realizing that I have cut all communication with him; told him so; WEEKS ago that the meeting A MONTH AGO would be my FINAL attempt and his LAST opportunity. He isn't even acknowledging my request and forging ahead with threatening me to "think about the decisions that affected our marriage" before "the end" comes where he says that he will "not be around".

Having a whole month without trying to get a word in edgewise, exasperating myself in either defense of what I am thinking and feeling to his constant criticism and disrespectful judgements (Harley's love buster from His Needs/Her needs book,confused his site with this one at first) is giving me even more CLARITY on the issue; I am happy without him; that is a SAD realization for me to have FOR him...

He just wears me out to even make a statement; it has been the most DEvaluing and DISrespecting relationship that I have ever HAD to HAVE. Being "married" seems more like a prison sentence as if I have done something BAD to have to ENDURE the suffering of his abuse.(as my H told me I "should")

ARE THERE ANY husband's reading along to get a clue or two as to WHY their WAW walked away?
Albeit, I know some women (and men) who just "don't handle life" and they "run" but does ANYONE see that abuse is not an INvalid reason for leaving the home? Those who abuse, for the most part, don't know it because they are deceived into thinking that they "have done no wrong"...Could I be describing you and your marriage? If so, I might be able to answer some questions if you are brave enough to ask and HEAR the answers that I have found.

Hope this helps another marriage/a man who really wants to learn how to love and NOT lose his wife to his own neglect and ignorance.