GAG, thanks so much for the link to the discussion on LBS cycling. I loved this from Eric, via his friend
"You can be done today, or not be done today, AND you can change YOUR mind tomorrow. Tomorrow MIGHT be different than today. The future is NOT set in stone (that we can see), if it was, none of us would have been in DB."
It about sums it up for me as I feel today. I am making a list of my GAL activities and I'm getting ready to reinvent the new me starting next week.......stay tuned!!
In the meantime, H offered to pick up D again last night and he enquired about my Dad. I politely responded to both but I did not reinitiate further conversation. He wants to meet up with my visiting family next week so I spoke to my SIL today when she phoned and she's quite happy to have him visit. I will pass that on and he can choose how he meets up with them.
I've re-read HB's stages yet again and while I see H is in replay cos he has ow I can certainly see lots of aspects of the other stages as well. He has made huge progress in the past three months. This week was a backwards step but he has followed it up with forward steps. There will come a time where he will make a choice or I will make a choice. It's a risk he takes, too. Given his limited contact with ow, I think I can safely say she is not 'the one'. He faces the risk that I find someone else and he's left all alone. But as I said, today I am trying to treat him with care and respect, just as I wish to be treated. That part won't change tomorrow or the next. This bit is about being a person of integrity.
Off to get D from her day with friends and then I'm going to look for new curtains for my bedroom and buy a yummy ice-cream. Time to take action on my to do list!
