Change is in the air........

[goodattitudegirl]

CW, MHL, and Grit,

Thank you for your feedback and encouragement. No contact from XH today. I think he may be shell-shocked. He told me that he was planning to see BMF this evening and would ask him about whether or not he had sent the package.

When I think back over our conversation, the word that I think best summarizes the mood is vulnerable. XH struck me as being open and vulnerable. He must be feeling that his world is topsy turvy...again.

CW, as always, thank you very much for your encouragement. (((((CW)))))

MHL, thank you, thank you for posting!!!! Your words spoke volumes to me today. Just what I needed to hear.

After I got home I kept thinking that I wanted to ask him "What part of this difficulty do you think that you contributed to?"............Arghhhhhhhh! He is a SLOW learner! Still not taking any responsibility for his part of that.

I am glad you didn't ask this.....I think you were just venting, right????

I think a valid response would "What part do you think was difficult?"

I think it is good that he is openning up to you, it may not be what you want to hear but it is more than you have gotten before. Keep providing a "safe" environment for him to share himself with you.

I have been cycling a lot over the last 5-6 weeks. Visited your thread to find a discussion among you and your posse all about cycling (www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads...ue#Post20760100). I highly recommend this for any LBS who is struggling with this. You gentlemen rock!........but I might need to come over there with a bar of soap for y'all's colorful language.

Found this wisdom from a fella named Grit....

This isn't anger or anything else and you know what I am talking about.

How could you want her back RIGHT NOW????

She ain't fully cooked yet. Not even sure if she is in the oven yet.

THAT is the peace I want for you. That you know what you are doing and what path you are on.

Just look at your wife as an unbaked fruitcake.

My XH is SO not done........but the bunny is boiled! Nice to know that I can trust my intuition.

GAG