Not sure where to start or end, WAW - #2

[Sad_but_happy]

Here's the best part of all... It will end with some type of conclusion and life WILL go on.

The big question is... When does the pain end and the healing begin?

The answer... It's totally and 100% up to you John. It will end when YOU end it. That does not mean that you will not have pain. It simply means that the pain will be part of the healing process.

Look at it this way, A 3rd degree burn hurts more and more days after the initial injury. That's because it's healing. Right now that flame is still on you continually burning your skin. Remove the flame and the healing begins. It will still hurt, but less and less every day.

[john28]

Some people have stopped posting. I'm sure they still read. Who wouldn't.

We all hope he succeeds. This story would be a bestseller one day.

Guys and Gals, I hate to admit this. But, more drama. I know. I know. This bestseller is going to dig me into my own grave. Grab your bucket of popcorn, it's going to a show.

First, I'm a pretty easy going guy that makes friends really easily. I'm usually a confident, upright, moral and good dude. I like sports. I play golf. I can talk to anyone about pretty much anything they're interested in. People typically latch on to me because of that. I have a lot of close friends.

I had to go to get a new Check-card at the bank about a week ago. I had to get one because the swiper on mine had gone bad. You have to meet with one of the associates there in the office to get a new one. We sat down and of course he's a pretty extroverted guy, about my age, and we hit it off in chit-chat. He's a big golfer like me, we follow the same sports, etc. Well by the end of the meeting he hands me his card with his personal cell on the back. I really like this guy - he seems like a good influence and a good dude. We made plans to tee it up in about a week or so. I mentioned in my meeting with him I may need to refi my house because of certain life changes going on. I think he caught my drift and said he'd have a mortgage specialist give me a call.

I got a call around 4:30pm from the guy at the bank that I met with last week. He's following up on my banking activities, check card, and mortgage. We chit chat for a little, let him know the card came in. He then talks to me about my insufficient funds transfers that have gone on in the past week or so (remember, W and I are broke now). I told him yeah, hit some hard times as of late.

He says, "Yes, I wanted to see if we could help you out with a savings account that had more interest and while looking at your file I noticed that your wife came in a little while back and spoke with another banker when she closed an account - they made a note in here that you're getting a divorce. I'm really sorry to hear that man - I'm actually in the same boat, my W and I have been separated for about 2 months now."

Uhhh.... my wife came in and closed an account? WTF??

So what do I do? I call her, of course. I had no idea what was going on, I haven't looked at the banking statements today, no idea if she went and cleaned me out....

So I call her. Tell her that I got a call from the bank and they told me she came in there and closed an account and told them she was getting a D. I was angry as sh~t.

She lets me know that she only closed our S4's savings account (only $100 in it) and moved it to her new bank. Then, THEN, she gets pissed! That someone would tell that to me about accounts that I'm tied to??? She gets pissed that this guy told me!

Oh good god, it gets better.

So she texts me tonight, "What was this guys name?"

I know what she's up to. She wants to get this guy fired, and I'm having none of it. I ask her Why. She says she just wants to know.

She keeps asking, I'm ignoring. Then she calls to speak to S4 before bed. I give him the phone and let him talk. She asks him to get me. S4 hands me the phone. She says she wants to know his name. I ask why again. She says she just wants to know.

Well, basically I told her that I didn't trust her not to get the guy fired. She said she wouldn't report him, and I said then you don't need his name. She THEN said, "I WILL REMEMBER THIS."

Oh no you didn't. That little b!tch! Using our relationship and my hope of reconcilliation as a tool against me! I called her out on that crap right then and there. She was silent.

Then she texts me, "I will remember that you picked a strangers needs over mine."

I'm F'ING PISSED NOW. I can't control myself. I text back, "I will not do this. Don't even GO there with 'needs'. I didn't confront anyone that had information about me that I didn't want revealed when you had your 'episodes' because I respected you. This conversation is over."

I'm so angry right now. I've had you guys showing me over and over how she manipulates me. At first I could see how she did it, and was OK with it. I could see it.

But now EVERYTIME I see this crap behavior I want to puke on her.

Of course she sends back, "This conversation is over? I never did that to you when you wanted to talk."

Puuuhhlease!!!!!!!

GOOD FREAKING GOD I MUST GET AWAY FROM THIS MAD WOMAN THAT IS DRIVING ME F'ING CRAZY!!!!

[pinhead]

John,

You didn't need to call her. The banker should have been able to tell you the balance when the account was closed. As many have said, you need to financially protect yourself...

And admit it, you wanted to call her...

[john28]

John,

You didn't need to call her. The banker should have been able to tell you the balance when the account was closed. As many have said, you need to financially protect yourself...

And admit it, you wanted to call her...

No, I didn't. I was pissed at her and wanted to know wtf was going on with MY money.

[konfuseeed]

I woulda called her regarding bank issues too. I don't see a problem with that.

The problem is though you called her angry. You shoulda waited till you could be calm and just ask her what account she closed and why.

[pinhead]

You let your emotions drive your actions.

[Sad_but_happy]

Game, set, match...

Tonights Winner... WAW

Tonights Loser(s)... John AND... S4

Don't let him down John!

[Sad_but_happy]

John says, "I just recently found out that you closed an account and opened a new one at another bank."

WAW says, "yes."

John says, "That's a very good idea. Tomorrow we WILL split ALL the money and open new accounts in our own names. Meet me at the bank at noon tomorrow. If you're not there then I will leave your portion in the current account. Have a good night."

No drama! No yelling! No anger! And... No more communication until tomorrow at noon!

[Sad_but_happy]

On second thought, meet her at the bank when it opens! I don't trust her.

[pookie69]

Mexican soap opera.

I don't know why, but I went back and read the #1 thread and this one in chronological order.

We need a real psychologist here.

These two individuals are feeding off each other's insecurities and twisted love for each other.

I am beginning to believe that their lives have always been this way. The drama and twisted excitement feeds the very existence of their relationship.

No advice here will ever change that.

The only victim here to feel sorry for is John's son.

I will post no more.

Good luck John. God bless.