Wife states she is not in love with me anymore!

[HopelessInLove]

I have read the N.U.T.s book and that is great information, but it is finding that thought process.

Anyway, I think that spending time together would be helpful to the situation. I am telling her that I want to spend time with her. Something I was having trouble telling her before. My DB coach tells me that that is what I should be doing for my 180. What I want to know is the best way to phrase the question? And how do I handle the possible negative response from her, without retreating, and saying ok that is fine maybe another night. I don't want the spineless retreat, but I want to be both positive and ready. (I know I should be thinking positively that she will want to, but I want to be ready for either situation.)