Wife states she is not in love with me anymore!

[HopelessInLove]

when you say assertive, I have a tendency to become aggressive and sometimes athoritative when I talk to her. I know it is wrong but after years of being passive and not getting anywhere with her. I started to adopt how her father treated her, because she seemed to always try to please her father. Now, I am trying and know I need to get away from that. Any suggestions on finding that middle without sound to weak?