I chose the road less traveled by #31

[kat727]

I know what you guys are saying. I know that he was making about 3 times what I was. I can't imagine what our lives would have been without 1) my getting a better paying job and 2) without child support. Of course some of his choices really hurt us financially. I am rebuilding though and am teaching my kids as we go about choices and needs and wants.

My ex quit his part time job so that he could pay me less and now he is back to working a second job. I don't ask him about any of it. I just really would love for him to focus more on the kids when he does have them. That is my boundary...I don't cross. His relationship with the kids is just that, his.

His choices hurt a lot of people. I believe the kids are doing pretty well. We talk about issues that come up. I do encourage them to tell their dad about things that are going on and that does seem to be working. I can have a conversation with him without getting upset though it makes me wonder why he still lies to me. No need to, really.

When I see people that just seemed to get raked over the coals it does bother me. I know that I only get to see one side of the story but I don't understand how the courts can make things so lopsided especially when there are no kis or just one.

Somehow though I think everyone here can get through this stuff.

kat