Were that it was so simple. For every case where it's "easy" to point the finger at the WAS, there's at least one where trying to know which is WA and which is LB is pretty much impossible. And on top op that, when it comes to CS, it doesn't, and shouldn't matter. At that point taking care of the kids is the only issue. Not who is to blame for what.
In my case there were no affairs... I would say that in MY opinion, my W, who didn't leave the house until we had agreed to D, was the WA. But I was the one that filed, I was the one that did all the work. And I was the one that agreed to pay more CS than the state would have required. I don't enjoy it, but I "get" it.
Alimony, another topic altogether, and one that I don't have to deal with.
In almost every case no one is coming out of divorce better off financially. I have read things that suggests that after a few years, most of us recover. I will be fine once the market recovers (fingers crossed) and I can sell my house.
I guess my point is that demonizing our kids' other parent isn't helping anyone, and there's been quite a bit of that going on lately.
