Ahhhh, thanks. I'm glad the DB coach and I were on the same page of thought.
If you can stay objective, you will have more than one time to wonder if you should laugh or just shake your head (probably both), but if you can do it...then that says you are doing a great job.
In the beginning, the LBH is filled with fear when he is faced with a WAW. Fear can freeze you up where you can't even think. But once you decide that you will not let fear dictate what you will do, then you start relaxing and start feeling more confident. You let off applying "pressure" to her....and then she starts trying to find out why!
Don't make things too easy for her. She needs to "work" and winning you back. She will probably catch you at some point....when you have to actually speak to her. Be thinking of what she "might" ask you and what you will say in return. Remember to use one or two word answers. That will help you to not go into a R talk. You are a busy, busy man who has such a full schedule with things to do and places to go that it is hard to find the time to race to the phone or computer to return her contact attempts. Right? Right!
Have you ever answered a question by asking it back? Most people hate it when that happens, but it could be a method of getting unspoken points across to your W. For example, if she says, "Don't you even care anymore?" You answer by saying, "Do I care anymore?" She says, "Why didn't you return my call?" "Your call?" (Just don't drag it around too much, b/c it is frustrating for a man to do that....but in the beginning, it may be a way to let her talk and your listen.
If she says, "I was worried sick that something had happened to you and you don't even have the manners to return my call." You say, "You were worried?" She says, "Of course, I still care what happens to you!" (She's just open a trap door for herself... ;))
You could probably do this much better than I can, but it puts the ball back in her park whenever she comes at you with a question or statement you aren't sure how to answer.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
