All your comments today have me thinking. I guess I just figured that if I started to feel more desire for him, he would for me as well. But that sounds dumb, and short-sighted doesn't it. Maybe after me being LD for a lot of years, it's just not that simple? Maybe I've really hurt him? frown And if so, how do I fix?

Do I accept that I'll have to be the one who initiates and let myself get rejected as often as he wants, until he feels 'safe' that my desire is coming back and it won't be so risky for him to initiate?

Or, is that going to be like 'pursuing', and end up irritating him and causing him to withdraw further?

I'm espeically interested in what the men think. If your LD spouse finally turned a corner and started 'getting her groove' back do you think you'd be wary of it and cautious before trying to initiate anything?

I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.