Good thoughts. If I had to say, I would say H flickers between trying to try and trying. I don't think he is fully wanting to make it happen yet there are definite times he is trying. When I see the genuine willingness to try is when I succumb to "patience" mode. One day is not like the next If it were, it would be easier for me to stick to one way of being.
I do feel I have set boundaries along the way and those have worked. Having H adhere to those boundaries makes me want to be more patient at this time. Yet, I know I can not live like this for long. I want more for my life. Also, I'm not sure that allowing limboland is going to make him come around - mediocrity is not something that pushes someone off the fence.
Do I want to have that conversation now? Good question. Given our current house situation, with the fire, prehaps it is best to put that on hold: not forever, but a few weeks, perhaps??? Well, unless he brings it up but I don't see that happening. Part of me doesn't want to have it because I don't want to deal with any more stress/drama right now. However, I know it can't stay this way too much longer without some sort of progression. I feel the fire did put us behind a few steps. Before the fire H had been acting happier...now he's all stressed out again and we have so much we're waiting on with insurance, etc...
