Not sure where to start or end, WAW - #2

[Sad_but_happy]

John, don't be so hard on yourself. You are a GREAT man for wanting to save your marriage, for thinking of the well-being of your child, and for coming here to seek advice.

There are two frames of thinking. Logical and emotional. you are thinking with your emotional mind which is absolutely understandable.

At times however, I see that you have a mix of emotional and logical which is progress.

It's now time to flip the switch to logical. Is it easy... NO! Why? Because this is an emotional situation. But you CAN do it!

Your s4 needs you to be a rational and logical person. That will keep him grounded and safe. He needs you and believe it or not so does your wife.

Just remember this... EVERY COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR WIFE SHOULD DEAL ONLY WITH S4!!! Not dinner, not a movie, not a conversation about how your day was and what you’re doing later that night... Those are conversations for your spouse, your wife, your lover. That IS NOT who she is to you right now... If it's not about s4, then you shouldn’t be discussing with her.