My wife apparently didn't finish 'growing up' from that mind set, and is now repeating her history all over again. But now, the damage is far worse.
Look Radio no one here is a mental health professional (that I know of)
We (and you) are trying to help you navigate the tragedy that has happened in your M based on our expereince and the experience and knowledge base of those who came before us.
Your W may have issues beyond MLC
Maybe she has batchit crazy disease...
... who the f@ck knows?
You don't and no one else here does.
My W? Survivor of childhood sexual abuse. MLC? Pretty much guaranteed and with a little nuts on top.
Only she can decide to deal with her issues in her time.
What you have to decide is what kind of man you want to be.
What is important to you.
And you must do that from a healthy place.
That is why we say detach and try to pull yourself out of the emotional turmoil that this has dealt to you.
Pull yourself back and out of the fray.
When you find your footing...
Make your decisions from your truth and your core.
That way what W does or doesn't do- won't matter.
Neither will statistics
Or her history
Or any body elses opinion for that matter.
But you gotta do the work here Radio.
To find your own answers.
Your own truth.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
