He's avoiding having sex with you? He doesn't respond even when you initiate things? Does he reveal why he pulls away when you initiate physical intimacy?
Yes. Not every single time, but frequently enough that it's hard to keep trying. For a long time, before I started going to therapy and working on the marriage, I'd been pretty LD. Back then when we talked about it, he told me that because of this, he'd just stopped trying. He said on our holidays that he doesn't initiate any more because he never knows 'what's going to happen' - which I'm assuming is still fear from when I was so LD.
But now that we're starting to reconnect emotionally, my drive is increasing and I'm initiating more. But (except for those couple times) he just dodges me - pulling away and changing the subject, or says he's too tired. Since the beginning of July he hasn't initiated it even once.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
