I said no, that's not a good idea. She shouldn't be sleeping here unless she makes the decision this is where she wants to be.
Oh my. You are still asking her to lead? Where is she leading you? You are still letting her know that what happens is up to her over and over and over. She knows that.
You should have stopped with this, IMO: "I said no, that's not a good idea"
I can't say anything right even with the correct intentions