Future - Again. Im so sorry your dealing with this. Just reading your post brings back so many bad/sad memories of having to FIGHT FOR MY RIGHTS. Sux but heed my warnings about her "father issues". Like my X she will probably say that she "thinks you are a great dad... I would never want to keep them from you.." but then her subconscience is telling her. "but remember your the MOTHER YOU CANT TRUST THE FATHER... blah blah"
How to use it??? Well hopefully it doesnt come to that like I had to... threats I mean... When my X started playing dirty (false claim with DCFS, called teachers, friends) I was forced to protect myself by threatening to bring up her past with the court appointed custody evaluator... luckily it didnt come to that. We did get a guardian ad litem appointed after we both ended up filing a petition for full. Was part of process. I didnt think it would go there BUT once I stopped agreeing to everything she wanted... (her keeping daughter every sunday night, and other examples) it got dirty.
So just keep it in mind. The best advice I give friends that are dealing with these sitches is to treat your WAS that is not playing FAIR/THREATENING,etc like a cop treats a perp. Take it to their level. If you are RESPECTFUL/CIVIL then so am I. If you file for full custody then so do I.
It's a chess match that eventually all gets knocked over. It's how you pick up the pieces that really matters...
