We never had a real conversation about it. I was always afraid of hurting his feelings and driving him away. I did occasionally ask, "why don't we ever have sex?" But I didn't push it.
Yes, I think I can relate. That's where I was at too. But I think that rather than rushing into this...
Originally Posted By: So Ashamed
Since we've never had a conversation about our problem...do I write a letter? If so, what do I say?
Could I suggest that you take a bit of a breath. I think there's some thing you may want to explore in yourself before you start focussing on your H and trying to get him back?
One question that comes to mind is - why was it more important for you to not hurt his feelings, than to get your feelings of being disconnected, 'unnoticed' and 'taken for granted' addressed? Why did protecting his feelings come before caring for you own?
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
