Beyond Depression..but still a losing battle?

[awest1217]

About the legal separation, you aren't legally separated. You won't have to wait the "waiting period" if there is one in CA, but that is it. Legally all debt or assets are still split even if aquired during this time, although my L told me a good L could make a good argument about splitting the debt since it has been such a long separation. With S, you could still split assets because H would owe back child support (if the L can win that).

With H, I don't know what to say. He is not at all trying to understand that you already made plans and it is just like when he makes plans with you and breaks them. You get upset, but don't let it consume you. H may be looking for a reason to D. He could be trying to push you to D. He could be trying to punish you for leaving. He could be just down. Who knows? You definitely don't and he may not even know.

What is important is that you responded in a wonderful way that is still true to you and polite to H. It defused the situation and that is all good. You just keep doing what is best for you because you are awesome!

Hope you feel better!