HB - Thank you so much for sharing with me. I really, really appreciate it. I can't write much at the moment because I am at work. But I wanted to mention something...
You said do not allow him to connect with other women...how do I do that when it has already happened over the past 4 years, several times, with several women and is still on-going. Did you happen to read what I posted yesterday that he told the psych. that he cheated on me and has issues with always desiring other women to make himself feel better? Also, he is not staying at home right now, as of last Friday. I do not have control over anything he does. How do I stop him from doing what he wants to do? I can only control myself, I can't control someone else. He says he knows its wrong but does it anyway.
This morning I get a text from him asking me how I am. I said ok - how r u? He said "Horrible. F-ed up mentally in the my head and shoulder/neck are killing me" I said "what's going on in your head? Did something happen?" He said "I just don't know what I want or what I should do" and I replied "As far as what?" and he said "everything" - I said "sorry you feel the way you do" and he said "Me too" - then a little time went by and I know this was probably wrong but I texted "I guess you're finding life without me is making you happier?" and he just texted me now "Not that at all"
Should I ask him to come home? I'm so lost because I also don't want to be a doormat - having it seem that I am accepting of his behavior or the way he is acting towards me - blank, lifeless, confused, depressed. No matter what I just don't see how I can MAKE him stop that "other women" crap.
Again, thank you HB for sharing with me. I need to take more time to read and absorb your sitch. Please do check on me - I can't thank you enough for caring.
