Change is in the air........

[MHL]

XH DID say that he and I have had some really good times together, so at least he is allowing himself to remember those times now.
GAG

GAG,

I have heard this from my W, 4 times on 3 separate occassions in the past couple of weeks. I too am glad she remembers those times, however she is saying it because only remembering the bad times is no longer a valid argument for not reconciling.

So they move to the next reason for not getting back together, for your XH it is VVVVVVVVV this.

"But (he said) living together was difficult".

I think in time this will fall apart as you spend more and more time with him. I think the R with OW#2 will end in short order, but like SA said it may take a little time.

After I got home I kept thinking that I wanted to ask him "What part of this difficulty do you think that you contributed to?"............Arghhhhhhhh! He is a SLOW learner! Still not taking any responsibility for his part of that.

I am glad you didn't ask this.....I think you were just venting, right????

I think a valid response would "What part do you think was difficult?"

I think it is good that he is openning up to you, it may not be what you want to hear but it is more than you have gotten before. Keep providing a "safe" environment for him to share himself with you.

Don't think he wants another bunny boiler in his life,....although it sounds like he may have one.

I think I got this but I wanted ask about the Bunny Boiler....

is this ref. to Glenn Close ala "Fatal Attraction" ???

Funny

Cheers