"In summary though I guess I am saying, become the man who your W is proud to have on her arm, the man she would want to 'ravish 'her, ..."
rav·ish Spelled[rav-ish] –verb (used with object) 1. to fill with strong emotion, esp. joy. 2. to seize and carry off by force. 3. to carry off (a woman) by force. 4. to rape (a woman).
Assume we mean 1. on the above list ;-)
Some W's (even the privileged SAHMs) work themselves up into a very sorry state that's impossible to change no matter what in the world you do. So just in case this W is in that state it would be best to first use the little energy you have left to work yourself up into a state just for your OWN good, not hers. Her job as a W was to build you up when you lost your job and she failed miserably. So meanwhile she can use her old Guicci bag on her arm for all you care (i.e, focus on ravishing yourself ;-). And realistically you cannot be or look likelike the man she fell "in-love" with - that man's long gone and was probably not real in the first place - may well have been a figment of her imagination.
