Going straight forward...antlers 6th thread.

[antlers]

Hi Gardener.

This is some stuff pulled from IR's thread, and it describes the way I feel, and have felt for a long time...hard stuff to deal with.

"A betrayal of this proportion is not easy to fathom and heal from regardless of who the OP is. The feeling of a sudden loss of your dreams and hopes, severing of that deeply rooted trust two people built and held near and dear and the feeling of rejection- it's horrible. One of the worst things that can happen to someone- especially someone who was blindsided and never could've imagined THEIR spouses were capable of such things." - ImprovedRomeo

Then, there's a side to these things that we don't think about much, but it's true just the same! I'd rather not have to go through it though!

"Sometimes I think it's a miracle we've made it this far and we can look back and be proud of how many obstacles we've over come, what we've learnt from all this despite the grave conditions and even joke about it. And that is having it easy...because in addition to all the emotional pain when you have to also take care of your health, finances, legal BS etc in the midst of the sh!t storm you really have to be a rock of a person to survive it all." - ImprovedRomeo