Yes, but, Puppy, it's not as though she has a particular OM that she's built up a fantasy about in her head, who she has decided will solve all the problems in her M. That's a HUGE difference, from what I've read. If she was almost ready to leave herself, her H's reaction might easily have pushed her to go. That's why I don't like to see hard-and-fast rules for everybody.
Sorry to interrupt, So Ashamed. Some of the best, including Coach and Puppy, have come to help already--take to heart what they have to say, and you will begin to grow in ways that will ultimately make you feel much better about yourself.
