When we first met, I was not D, but separated - like a long distance one. She has already been D a few years before. So, at the time of her D, I really don't know if there was OM or not. Her and her ex are worlds apart, so it made sense to me that they got a D.
Her friend now I have met a few times, but never hung out with him (back when W and I were fine). But, I know she communicates with him regularly, and likely is in a EA with him.
When I confronted her to establish the boundaries, she said that she knows that I think there is something going on with them - but that there is not.
In my sitch, I really don't see the benefit of pushing this as it would likely push her away even further. To me, how is this any different than what she may do once she moves out? She would be free to come and go, and see anyone she wanted to.
I'm trying to focus more on me, and making myself a better person, and doing what I need to do to be happy. That is the overall message I've gotten from reading up on this through the forums.
Me: 46 WAW: 43 M: 8.5 yrs, T: 9.5 yrs Best friends b4 marriage: 2 yrs EA/PA: 8/10 Told me she doesn't love me anymore: 9/2/10 Kids: 2 stepdaughters: 17,15, Son: 6
