Blindsided

[gutwrenching]

My personal opinion which others may not agree with is not to use LRT until you are at a last resort place. It doesn't sound like you are there. You are still taking your first steps of DBing, GALing, figuring yourself out. Others may disagree, but the way I read it in Michelle's books is LRT is for when all else has failed.

Yes do what works, always do what works and stop doing what doesn't. I hope there is no OM, and there might not be...people tell you to look at for that because a majority of the time there is someone else, but not always.

You are obviously an eductated person, so order the books and read through them and start drawing some of your own conclusions on how to proceeed...and bounce them off people here on the boards.