3) Today one of my employees/friends disclosed to me that she is now a WAW from her husband (who is also a work colleague of mine). Her H had disclosed to me yesterday that there was crap going on between them and he wasn't sure what would happen between them. I talked to his W about her feelings and her sitch and it turns out that she is in the midst of a long-distance E-affair with some guy in another state that she met while he was visiting here and they are going to separate and potentially divorce (she is not sure yet). Her H is aware of this. She is 100% WAW script in her feelings and thoughts. She was talking about moving to be where OM is or OM perhaps moving to here and starting new life. I could almost see the fog in her eyes. It was enlightening for me to be able to talk to her and get a real sense of what my W is/was feeling (especially at the outset of our sitches). Her H also is apparently in the midst of 180's (his bomb was last week) and she said how it pissed her off that it only happened now and she didn't trust the changes. I validated her hurt, resentment and anger, but also suggested that she take a deep breath and slow things down so that she could make any decisions she made from a calmer place. I suggested she consider getting a counselor for herself and an attorney, that she put her R with OM on the backburner while she tried to sort out her feelings re: H and their M, that she begin doing pleasurable/rewarding activities for herself, and that she read some books on R's in trouble to help her sort through her feelings. She asked me to suggest some. Should I give her DR or are there other ones that would be useful/helpful to a WAW in need? Her main stated complaints against him are that he drinks too much, that he is controlling, that he hasn't listened to her or her needs, and that he doesn't respect her thoughts, feelings or actions.
4) Neighbors had me and the D's over for dinner yesterday. Fun time hanging out with them and my D's played with their kiddos.
5) Went running with my running club Monday and today PM. My mileage is coming up and my body's remembering the old routine. Love the feeling.
6) W called me yesterday AM and late PM to vent about some stuff related to her work. I listened and validated and tried to be supportive. She thanked me for listening each time. She also called me this PM on her way home from work. She asked me if I wanted to go to dinner (sushi) with her and the girls. I said it sounded like fun, but I was on my way to go running and hoped they had a good time. Then she called me like 2-3 minutes later just to tell me that our D2 had written a W and said, look mama, a W. She's either missing the family vibe or me today, I guess. With an emphasis on today... =) It's not wrong of me to validate her and listen to her when she calls is it? Should I just drop bombs on her? STOP CALLING ME, WOMAN! I'M SO DONE! I'M OVER IT!
7) Doing craptons of laundry right now. Holy hell where does it all come from.
8) Tomorrow is shower regrout day.
Overall, feeling pretty happy right now =)
Me-53 W-49 D22,D18,D15 T-Since-12/2001 Married-9/2004 She Moved Out-5/28/2010 Piecing start-04/2011 Now-together Thread http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2079304
