CD,

I feel ya on that subject. It seems like many behavioral 180's for me would at the same time, go against other advice on how to interact with a WAW or Wayward spouse.

Particularly:

Making time for just "us" to do things. I didn't do nearly enough of this in our relationship before, but now I'm not supposed to because it's pursuing.

And

Spending time discussing our emotions surrounding a painful situation. Before, not openly discussing and addressing our issues had a big part to play in getting my wife and I to this point, but now I'm not supposed to conduct any relationship talk.

BLAH! So tricky =O)

I guess it's all in the timing.

Last edited by Mike.4545; 09/23/10 03:40 AM.
M: 29, W: 28
Together 8 years, Married 1 (5/16/09)
Bomb (LYBNILWY)4/22/10
Affair discovered 5/3/10, began Jan/Feb 2010
Separated 5/22/10 - Present
Affair exposed 7/7/10
No children