OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
Pei, True, and Lance - Thank you again. Well, I am going dark again. I have had no contact with him in the last 2 days and prefer to keep it that way. He seems to have a lot of things on his mind and to prevent me from being drawn in any further, I need space.
I know he will wonder why he has not received an email from me. I have not checked messages and don't really plan to
What is your advice for how I should proceed? If he is rethinking, then maybe going dark is best for me.
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
My advice would be to do whatever you need to do to stay in an emotionally healthy place. If that means going dark, then go dark. Period. This is about you for you, and about him for him. If he is rethinking, if he is not .... doesn't truly matter, because you need to take care of you.
You can do this, you know you can ... you already have.
(((hugs))) Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
DU ....I have a feeling that you are pretty emotionally strong now, but I know from experience that it doesn't take much to be knocked off balance. Stay off that rollercoaster.
(((hugs)))
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
I am somewhat concerned that my H will think I am ignoring him when has been trying to connect. I just don't want his connection to be at the expense of destroying the balance I have been trying to make for myself.
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
hey destiny, I haven't been on since around may probably, and saw that you had posted back in july.
if you ever want to get an opinion from me, just hit me up in the alt. I'm really finding myself wanting to stay away from here for a while. after posting advice to some for so long, and then seeing them go alternate directions, although I understand we are all human, I take it more personally than I should, so I'm taking a LONG break.
but, just find me crissy seamster (((hugs to you!!!)))
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
I think I may be scaring H away. He is distant and hasn't emailed much over the last week. He says he has good days and bad days and sometimes he doesn't know what to do - this is even after he pursued me and ask me to try again. What is going on? I am so tired.
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
Thank you Lance. You are giving me great advice, I know. However, I am worried about him giving up because he thinks he has caused to much pain. He seems very depressed and confused. I am crying now because I am so hopeless about all of this; I know I should just be patient, but this is the most unsettling thing about this MLC....the being sure, then taking it back, depression, withdrawal, etc. ARGHHH!!
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
