Got home a little late. Dogs were barely holding. No W in sight.
Took care of the pets and decided to text her. I said "I thought we had the mutual understanding about my expectations for you being responsible for our pets."
Seconds later phone rings. I did not pick up.
Minutes after that she pulls up. I smiled and said hi.
She went on to play with the dogs. After awhile I told her that I was hungry and will order the pizza. I really wanted to get out of the house but had no energy.
She said OK and that she was not hungry.
I decided to wait a little longer. Five minutes later she came over to the bar all cute and handed me the Spaniel. She asked if I wanted her to call in the food.
We ate and she kept looking at me the whole time. I avoided her but did not appear angry. I made some small talk and smiled and goofed a bit. I broke the tension.
She could not collect herself to say anything about my text message and I did not really want her to.
I am trying to set a simple boundary. She has been pretty good so far but I no longer tolerate any slipping. I told her that she needs to start living like I am no longer present. This is not a game. It is preparing for the reality without me. Isn't that what she wanted? Live up to that fact.
However she looked sorry and apologetic without saying anything.
Little that she knows, the R does not have to be that way.
I have complimented her good behavior but I will no longer swallow disrespect.
Cuteness is no longer a substitute for actions, but actions can be cute.
