I wish you well on your trip. Stay in the moment. If you drift off to the past or kids or W..Think "STOP" and focus on "Right here, right now"..Enjoy whatever is going on..a few good books on the plane will help...pretty girls walking past...the sunset...
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
God's speed my friend. Hopefully you don't even see this for a week, but I agree with whoever said that the detailed messages from your W are good. Especially anything concerning the kids. if it helps, compartmentalize. Think of her as your babysitter while you don't have them. Then the detailed after-action report will be an expected and valuable tool.
Not saying anything new, but the kids will go through some periods of adjustment. Any info at all might be important for both of you right now.
As far as the "here's how my day went" messages, well, now you can just dump them. It's a win-win. She get's to blow off a little steam, and you don't have to listen to it.
Try a Triple Carmeliet (sp?) while your over there. It's a blockbuster.
Have fun buddy.
ADAPT. OVERCOME. IMPROVISE. -Tom Highway
Me: 43 W: 40 S12 & S9 Married 17yrs Together 20yrs
3am in Belgium AGAIN! Have abt 6 hrs sleep in last 3 days! Not sure how I keep going. Got REALLY REALLY drunl last night and ended up crying on friends shoulders again. Ugh! They were very supportive.
All work so far, but having fun. Cracking people up with my stories, as usual. Female friend said her abs got a good workout laughing so much. Told her I loved her last night and it may be true. She is a great friend. If W had left when she should have (according to her rewrite) we may actually be together now. She is special to me.
Smoked a REAL Cuban Cohiba tonight. Tasty!
Texted with D a bit tonight. Off to Amsterdam tomorrow! Wish me luck.
Releasing those emotions is good to...I have learned to control my thoughts..which leads to controlling my emotions. There are good times and places to release....I pick the time and place as well as the right support people....
Are you done working on M? Is your friend single?
Enjoy Amsterdam! I wish I was there with you..would be a blast! People watching to the extreme!
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Releasing those emotions is good to...I have learned to control my thoughts..which leads to controlling my emotions. There are good times and places to release....I pick the time and place as well as the right support people....
Are you done working on M? Is your friend single?
Enjoy Amsterdam! I wish I was there with you..would be a blast! People watching to the extreme!
Unfortunately, friend is not single.
Amsterdam was GREAT! Walked the Red Light district, but didn't get into any trouble. Thought hard about it though. Smoked, ate "spece cakes", and drank too much. What a place. Lots of beautiful women in amsterdam. LOTS OF BICYCLES in Amsterdam. There are bike traffic jams!!
In Munich now for Oktoberfest. Got here about 10am today and walked to the grounds. It was raining when we got here, but cleared up before too long. That place is nuts too. People drinking huge steins of beer everywhere. One guy leaned over and puked his guts out. 10 min later he had another stein of beer.,There are some pretty extreme looking rides that I want to try too! May get out on a castle tour in the morning. That would be prety cool.
Anyway, gotta get to bed so I can get up tomorrow. This may be the most sleep have gotten while traveling and it is 1 am. Been up til 3am or later too many nights in a row.
Is this GAL? As my former neighbor would say - To the MAX!
Leaving Munich in the am. Talked to some really nice people here and had lots of fun. Feeling a bit frustrated though. I am so mad at W for not being here with me. I know she would have enjoued it immensley and it would have been so much more fun with her here to share it with. Why can't I just get over this [censored]? Sometimes it just makes me so mad. I love her so much and want us to have good times together like we did in the past. Maybe I am just being selfish here and feeling sorry for myself. This is about me missing her and not abt her being happy.
She texted me once abt letting the dog out when I pick-up the kids on Mon and said she hoped I was havimg a good time. Why should she care? I texted back K. Thanks. I am having a great time. And I am, but going to my own room all alone every night sucks.
Oh well. I cjeck back in on MOnday after we get home. Hang in there everybody and thanks for all your support.
