She refuses to give me access to her computer, Facebook account, and phone because in her mind she's yet to commit to staying; therefore in her mind, it's an invasion of her privacy. I have an IT background and found out about the A by breaking into her email and logging web access. After the confrontation, all I ended up doing was driving her more underground with her methods.
Sorry to highjack the thread but this caught my attention. I have been in he very same boat for some time (wife claims no contact, refuses transparency, justifies with "I haven't committed"). I suspect this is a common situation on these boards. What should a DB'er do with this?
Let her know that you will be assuming that this can ONLY mean she is either still in contact, or wishes to be able to be -- and proceed accordingly.
