For goodness sake! Who on this board would do that?
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Do I just stop and trust (really hard to do right now) or continue until we reach a decision point?
IMHO, a WAW who is or has been in an A and is not willing to be transparent with emails, etc., should not be trusted. Now, my H chose to trust me...b/c he said that was the only way he could continue in the M....however, I had no problem in him reading every single thing activity on my computer. I knew he had to have time and that I had to prove myself trustworthy again. So will your W. Why would you "stop and trust her" when it's obvious that she's not willing to even try to put forth the tinest effort to gain it?
The time you're gone will be the big test for her. However, I would suggest that you don't pick that time to do your checking up on her email, ect. You need that break and to enjoy your trip, so don't take a chance of ruining it.
Hold the boundary lines!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
