How should I handle MLC direct lying?

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I no longer see myself wanting to be with him because he's not a "stand up" kind of person. He can't respect anyone else when he doesn't respect himself.

I didn't lay out a particular 'time line' because I didn't have one. He has known for 8 months that every day he does NOTHING decreases the chances of us staying married. He certainly can't think that this would go on forever, though he appears to think this.

Yes to some extent my warning him DOES let me off the hook. I'VE been honest. I'VE been in counseling. I'VE been faithful. I own the negatives I contributed to our marriage. HE does not.

Whoever is lucky enough to end up with me in my next relationship will certainly know that I shoot straight. I don't play games. And they'll be glad to know that. It isn't a negative trait. I am not ashamed of it.

You're exactly right...it's not about my M or H anymore. It's about me. And I no longer like him. The person I love no longer exists. And I feel life is too short to spend it foolishly. A person can only take so much. A person can only make so many excuses, for so long, for a grown person who lives as if they're the only human on the face of the earth.

I certainly dont mean to sound argumentative. We are obviously in different places on this. I wish you well in your standing. I never was "standing". I was "hanging out". I came here for the knowledge and advice of others with experience in ths same horrible situation. My reasons for being here MIGHT be changing. It's scary. It hurts. But it's so. Does that mean I'm no longer welcome on this board? Because I'm fed up and no longer making excuses for him.

WHat if I (or you or any other person reading this) decided WE were having a MLC. Today. I'M going to get an OP and act like a child. Dress like a teenager. Walk away from my responsibilities. What would happen then? WHY SHOULD THE MLCer get away with this? I'm not telling ANYONE else what THEY should do. BUT I AM FED THE F UP. Will I be ready to stick around again in a week? I don't know. But I am done making excuses. Disrespectful behavior is disrespectful behavior...no matter WHO is doing it or WHAT they're problem/reason is. No one would make an excuse for me if I acted the way my H is...including him.

SOrry for this rant. I really do appreciate feedback, as my feelings of "doneness" are somewhat sudden, unexpected and scary.