Here's Jody's idea via GAG. What do you think? Change as you see fit.
"I wanted to follow up with you about Tuesday. I’ve been thinking about what happened with you postponing our dinner to go to dinner with ow and your family. It made me realize that I’m not sure either one of us is in an emotional place to have a friendship right now.
Why don’t we take a step back for now? Perhaps in a while we will be in a place where your life is more sorted and I’m less vulnerable. Making plans and then breaking them so you can be with ow isn’t something I can roll with right now.
I will continue to be available to work together on anything to do with the kids Take care. Cas"