No, I have not asked yet. Still taking time on it.
It is disrespectful...but I said the same thing to her last week when she wasn't giving me a straight answer. I don't want to, but I almost have to ask her things like I would a kid, because she will side step and lace the response.
but I almost have to ask her things like I would a kid,
She's not a kid, so don't fall into that trap.
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It is disrespectful...but I said the same thing to her last week when she wasn't giving me a straight answer
Well, when you respond to her...
"I'm kind of busy, what's this about?".
And learn the secret art of being Cary Grant: you are not agitated. You find her amusing when she's being unreasonable After all... if you are detached, it's kind of funny. Especially that she used your own sarcasm on you.
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but I almost have to ask her things like I would a kid,
She's not a kid, so don't fall into that trap.
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It is disrespectful...but I said the same thing to her last week when she wasn't giving me a straight answer
Well, when you respond to her...
"I'm kind of busy, what's this about?".
And learn the secret art of being Cary Grant: you are not agitated. You find her amusing when she's being unreasonable After all... if you are detached, it's kind of funny. Especially that she used your own sarcasm on you.
I am kind of amused at this one. She's showed more emotion in that text than I've seen in awhile.
Sandi said she would start to do this to get a reaction.
Don't waste a lot of time on small talk type of stuff. Think of a friend who always borrows things and never returns them if you are confused about how to respond and nobody is here to offer advice.
You can be pleasant, firm, confident, and charming, and you don't have to jump through any more hoops. It won't do any good to jump through hoops anyway ... unless you are trying out for a poodle's job at Ringling Brothers.
OH, and do the right thing. No need to be nasty.
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Well looking back at Sandi's response...she said go Dark - Dark like unless it's life and death, no reason to respond. I value Sandi's insight because she knows more about what's going inside my W's head than I do.
She also emphasized to me NOT to consider it ignoring her.
I'm not busting at the seams wanting to respond, but it pisses me off when she doesn't get back to me in a timely manner. So I feel like I'm cutting against the grain by doing something that I dont like done to me.
My problem with responding...is it feels like I have to. Also, when I have done it it winds up biting me in a$$ somehow. The other side of the coin is... if I don't respond I feel like it's vindictive and cold.
Take all the games and tactics out of it, and no they really aren't games.
Take all that away.
Prior to all of this all this affair and seperation crap.
The guy who isn't Faith. The guy you were, how would he respond? That guy...barring the crap you don't like about yourself and you should get rid of like being a MMORPG addict. From one to another.
That guy, your going to be when you aren't FaithinAK one day. The guy who read the man-books and liked what he saw, saw what he wants to become.
How would he answer?
Cause that who you are/will be.
Most of us here know how we would answer, or address this...but only one person here is getting those texts.
The why of what you do, sometimes just as important as the what of what you do.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
After all... if you are detached, it's kind of funny. Especially that she used your own sarcasm on you.