Somewhere in my posts are the reasons and details to the short answers below.
My original wife?
My 1st wife I was the WAH, straight no MLC.
My wife was the OW. (I do not like the term current or 2nd, as it implies there will be another.)
Then later I was the LBS when she had her MLC.
Talk about Karma.
Are we still together?
Yes. Not even close to easy to get where we are today.
Who do you have besides yourself?
Your goals, [censored] man if you are just living for you then get back on the computer and play WOW. What are you trying to prove otherwise? You know what I mean? You stopped playing for a reason.
You love her and you say you want to be married, but then you throw in the justifications of why your moving toward mediation dissolution. You don't want that? Then stop it. You already got yourself a lawyer, let her do the ground work, if she really wants a divorce she will get one.
You want to be married, you buy yourself time, for her to regret; see you in a different light, whatever.
You're angry, ANGRY even, that is fine understandable, use your anger as a shield, not a sword. You want her back (perferably not this current fukced up version) you want her more or less whole not sliced into ribbons.
Faith,
Tell me to stop and I will.
8 days is fast approaching, I seldom try to convince people to stay married its too much time and investment for something I feel should be coming from the person posting here.
If you do not get the dissolution what is going to happen is she going to go out and have another affair? Leave you again?
Protect your finances, yes.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
That you have to see her? And it pains you to see her? If you work things out with her you're going to see her on a daily basis.
Your boundary...
Did you ACTUALLY tell her about your boundary? Cause its not a boundary if she has to read your mind.
For example, "If he is in your life I won't be."
The still meant that I HAD to talk to her about the boys and bills. But life stuff? Not even close.
She wants to see the dogs, why not? Not doing the mind reading thing, it could be for the dogs it could be for you. IF you decide to let her and are around, don't wear your broken shattered heart on your sleeve.
Be upbeat, don't look longing at her, don't say, "They miss you like I miss you."
Remember your man-books you read.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Okay, well I've thought about this the last few days...
I do not want to Divorce her, not because I want to torture her, but I FEEL like she's not in a good frame of mind. Selfishly I have thought of anything to slow this whole process down to buy more time. You appeal to my WANTS, but is it it the RIGHT thing to do?
If I do this, isn't it going to hurt the whole "Healing" process?
Not sure when I pissed in your Wheaties, want to point out whn I read her mind for me?
The part where she wants to see the dogs?
The text she sent that said that?
The part about it could be for the dogs it could be to see him, I left out the part where it could be because she is a [censored] alien and is plotting to suck his brain out through his skull.
My goal is to help this guy on a Divorce BUSTING site.
You want to get into a pissing match fine, make a thread, but not on his.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
