I'm not picking at you just trying to give perspective. That's the value in detaching. I bet your wife can tell a different story. Every marriage has two sides with gaps. I am not excusing any bad behavior but your R wasn't always this way.
If your wife didn't drop the bomb would you be happy in your M? Would she? Where do you want to be?
Don't see any picking here. I was exactly that - deaf, blind and stupid.
Of course my W story will be different. She kept leaving crumbs everywhere while I was busy in my seemingly tranquil world.
I had forgotten what happiness felt like. So perhaps I will still consider it "normal" if the bomb hadn't dropped. She in the other hand obviously was not happy and would not be now if she did not do what she did.
You are trying to make me say that what I called a cowardly act was actually a heroic move from her part to shake up the nest and let pieces fall where the should be.
I suppose if my story has a happy ending I will give her a MOH, but isn't that a form of re-writing history?
But winners have always had that privilege, haven't they?
