Just a quick note to add... I have been trying to keep decent meals on the table and notice the long, hard hours H is working... and have rubbed his shoulders and such occasionally. (In a non-pursuing kind of way.) I've just been trying to match the "affection level" still. I don't take any steps to go further than H in that area (or say ILY) because right after the fire, when I tried to hug him, it's almost like he stiffened up. I would not say he hugged me back really. It was odd to me, a very strange reaction. Thus, I don't try and hold his hand or anything like that.
Yet, then other times he scratches my back from out of the blue... go figure!!!
