Mach / Grit - If you continue to reference my use of a tutu in any way shape or form I will have no choice but to discontinue any further conversation and/or post updates with either of you.
How is that for boundary? Just kidding LOL
Kerry - I love the dog picture. I have to pick that up for my living room, whenever the hell the damn lawyers let me move. It also a bargin at 1.25! FTR, do you know where I can pick up one of those 1970 velvet posters...you know the one where a certain body part is in neon colors.
Grit - Can I borrow the 1970 beads that you have hanging in the doorway to your room?
Drew - glad to see you respond. I hope all is well with you.
Okay…now back to my update
The L process is moving slowly at least IMO. My goal is to try and finalize the custody issues as soon as possible so that I can move out of the house. I have been in the home for year post bomb and really just can’t anymore. I need my space. I’m also concerned at the message that it might be sending the kids. At the end of the day this is not how they (especially my D) should think a M operates.
Overall things in the home front are pretty quite these days. Her and I continue to barely speak to each other outside of conversations regarding the kids and those conversation tend to be very short. She appears to be a little nicer (if you can call it that) these days. IMO – she is totally detached. She has begun to spend more time with the kids and is now coming home at a reasonable time. I wonder if this has more to do with the legal process but honestly who the hell knows.
I have to admit that I still cycle from time to time. The anger can come and go pretty quickly. I suspect that this is normal.
The goals that I have for myself are as follows: - Finalize the custody agreement as soon as humanly possible - Secure housing for myself and my kids - Get career back on track
At this point, I am somewhat hopeful that we can maintain some form of “working” relationship, specifically so that we can parent our kids in the most effective way possible. My hope is that the legal process goes as smoothly as possible.
I am glad to see that J3B is back – so J….”welcome back”…we missed ya buddy!
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Eric - you sound great....considering. It's been a year for me as well since the bomb...I think it's going to be tomorrow actually.
I find that setting goals keeps me focused on me. See that you are doing it as well. Yes the anger....comes and goes, doesn't it. I can't wait to have that behind me and just be indifferent. I suspect that once all the legalities and the financial issues are settled it will take some pressure off of everything...and we will have more space from them and maybe the anger will go away as well....permanently.
Jack is back? I missed him....have to look for his posts...
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
I wonder if his wife still carries his balls in her purse
I suspect not. I believe he may have a boundary set to avoid that....probably something alone the lines of....
"I will not speak to you if you carry my balls in your purse".
Sorry for the humor at your expense J...:)
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
