Then I think you would be more willing/able(?) to show more affection.
I have to be careful not to blame her for not showing more affection. I have to look inside and see what I can do to move towards her request and desire.
I've been focusing on boundaries and companionship this past year. I need to move towards developing a more loving mindset. I think of myself as having self-restraint with my W, but need more compassion. self-expression, listening, and less judgment and reactivity. I'm going to experiment with giving her the space to work thru her emotions, and communicate her concerns with me. I believe that underneath the emotional turbulence is a desire to connect and move forward. Her style with conflict is emotional bluntness rather than a calm approach, which I'll need to accept for now.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
