Drew, if she reschedules the meeting I'll go. If she doesn't, I'll request transcripts of the meeting from the school.
Ups and downs. D8 gets off the bus. She had a good day. She's excited I brought home a company computer because she wants to play a game.
I get her set up and she asks when we move into the new house next month if we can get a pet.
I say, no, I don't own the house. I'm just renting. That's been my stance all along. I'm not going to promise them a pet or even leave it open as an option while I'm renting.
She persists, telling me I should at least ask if I can have a dog or cat.
I tell her I'm not home enough to take care of a pet because sometimes I work all weekend out of town. Then I tell her I also can't afford one right now. In a couple of years, when I buy a house then we'll get a pet.
She blows up, calling me a big meanie, and cheap, and saying I promised I'd get her a pet. And it goes on for a couple of minutes.
I just stood there, anger rising, ready to fire back that I didn't ask to be poor, that much of my money is going to STBXW and I HAVE to work three jobs to make ends meet.
But I held back and said "I'm sorry you feel that way" and then went out of the apartment to meet D11 off the bus.
Wow. I had a mixture of bitterness and sadness as I walked to see D11.
When I got back she gave me a hug and apologized. I learned a while ago that with ADHD kids it does no good to argue, plead or bargain when they lose it. It's called feeding the emotional fire. You have to just let it burn out.
Lots of ups and downs in basically a 10-minute span.
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Drew, if she reschedules the meeting I'll go. If she doesn't, I'll request transcripts of the meeting from the school.
If you can't make it I understand. You can't always set a time where both of you could meet. I have already given you my suggestion of how to help this situation so I will leave that part alone.
The only part I want to comment on is school is not a court room. You don't get transcripts of the meeting. You might get a brief overview of what was decided, but that is it. Schools don't have someone (no money) who is there just to type out what was said or to record what was said. If you really want to know everything, you would have to be there.
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It isn't a meeting to decide anything. It's an IEP meeting where all of the counselors and social workers meet with the teachers and the parents.
Huh? I just had an IEP meeting this afternoon, coincidentally, for S9. I've been to every IEP meeting for the last four years and every time something gets decided. Plus there's paperwork to sign-off on and to initialize. I'm not sure what's involved in yours, however.
